It can be easy to get stuck in a sexual rut. For many people, this means sticking to the same routine in the bedroom with their partner again and again. It’s not that these activities are bad. In fact, it’s great that you and your partner feel so comfortable with one another that you can explore new ways to have sex together.
The problem is that when we do the same thing over and over again, things get predictable—and pretty boring. Fortunately, there are many ways you can shake things up without taking things too far out of your comfort zone. Adding a sex toy to your bedroom antics is just one tip on this list of ideas for adding some heat back into your relationship.
Make Orgasm Together a Goal
Whether you’re in a relationship or you’re exploring solo sex, orgasms are the goal of most sexual activity. The trick is to make orgasm a shared goal. This can be as simple as a conversation where you tell your partner that you’d like to orgasm more frequently. Or, you can try a few simple techniques to make orgasm more likely.
Foreplay is essential: It can help both partners feel more relaxed, as well as increase blood flow to the genitals, helping people orgasm more easily. During sex, communicate about what feels good and what doesn’t. Taking these steps can help you feel more comfortable asking for what you want in bed, as well as make orgasm more likely. No matter how long it takes, orgasm is a good thing.
Try Something New
If you’re a couple who has been together for a while, you might feel like you’ve tried everything. One way to break this rut is to try something new. This doesn’t have to be a drastic change, like moving to a BDSM relationship.
Instead, you can try something simple like a new position during sex, a new place to have sex or a new time of day for sex. You can also try something more advanced, like using sex toys or trying a new kink. Whatever you choose, make sure you’re both on board before you dive in. If you’re exploring solo sex, you can do the same thing. Try a new position, new location, new time of day, or even a new toy.
Add Some Intimacy With cuddling And Foreplay
While many people think of cuddling as a romantic gesture, it’s also a great way to improve your sex life. Feeling physically close to your partner can help you feel more relaxed and open to sensations during sex. Plus, cuddling has been shown to boost your immune system, reduce stress, and improve your overall health and mood. If you’re not sure how to initiate cuddling, try wrapping your partner up in a blanket while you’re watching TV.
Foreplay is another important part of sex that many people don’t spend enough time on. It can help you and your partner feel more relaxed and aroused. It can also help women achieve orgasms more easily. Foreplay doesn’t have to be complicated, either. It can be as simple as massaging your partner or touching each other.
Add A Little Diversity With A Vibrator
Many people think of sex toys as being used for solo sex, but that’s not the only way to use them. If you and your partner are feeling stuck in a rut, try using a vibrator during sex. You can also try wearing a vibrating cock ring during sex or using a vibrating anal toy. Sex toys can be a great way to add a little variety and novelty to your sex life.
If you’ve been with your partner for a while, they can help you try new things without feeling pressured to try new positions, try new locations, or try new kinks. Sex toys can be a great way for you and your partner to try new things together.
Try Anal Play
Around 70% of women have tried anal play. However, many people don’t like to admit it. If you and your partner have been together long enough that you’ve tried everything else, you might try anal play. While it might sound scary, it’s actually a very common sexual activity. To begin, you’ll want to make sure you and your partner are clean and have taken an STI test.
You’ll also want to make sure to use plenty of lubricants. Anal play can feel great, but if you don’t use enough lube, it can also cause painful cuts or tears. You can try anal sex with fingers, a sex toy, or your partner’s penis.
While you should never push someone into doing something they don’t want to do, you should also be honest with your partner about your desires. This means you should be open about what you want and why you want it. Partner communication is key in any relationship, and it’s especially important when you’re trying to spice things up.
Sex doesn’t have to be all or nothing. You can try to experiment with different types of play, toys, or positions without completely overhauling your sex life. If you don’t feel comfortable bringing up adding a sex toy to your sexual routine, try bringing it up casually in conversation. If you don’t know where to start, talk to your closest friends and see what they recommend.
You can also check out articles online to get some ideas. If a sex toy is something you both want, make sure to do a bit of research, so you know which toy is best for you. If a sex toy is something that you’re both hesitant about, start with a smaller toy. You can always graduate to something bigger after you’re comfortable with it.